MightyWhite wrote:Bloody hard this whole autism thing. We’ve had suspicions about our eldest (7) for a few years now due to his quirks and the way he interacts with other people, to the point we were having meetings with the school and local services, verging on biting the bullet and seeking a diagnosis. We pulled back in the end and, over the last few months, he seems to have evened out somewhat. His behaviour is fine and his school performance is spot on, the main struggles are limited to his absolute refusal to go in to any public toilet (awkward on day trips) and a slightly obsessive/narrow focus (seems to only be able dedicate himself to one friend at a time, and will only listen to the music of Lady Gaga!). All in all, I’m pretty content at the moment that we didn’t slap a label on him.
Our eldest, who's now 24, has a number of 'issues' in this way and we've all struggled with the 'on the spectrum' thing. Like your lad, she's not comfortable with loose social situations and has always focussed on one friend. She has lots of other things like writing lists of things to do which will include stuff as banal as washing up or making lunch, and she's unable to do them in any order other than the one she wrote them down in. Over the years she's become much more self-aware about understanding when she's being 'odd' and can tell friends she just needs to leave somewhere immediately. She /we have never known whether to take this further; she swings from wanting to self-manage to thinking she's be happier if she had an official diagnosis. She's quite high-functioning and so sort of self-diagnosed as having some form of Asperger's. Interestingly, this was in the paper today.
I guess the point is, having got as far as she's got and being reasonably self-aware, I'm not sure there's much to be gained from being labelled now.